Support a Dial overload that fails right away on ERROR_FILE_NOT_FOUND

[shueybubbles]

For named pipe connections to SQL Server we don't want to wait for the server to create the pipe, it needs to already exist.

[shueybubbles]

@aeckleder @natefinch is this repo no longer active for PRs? If so, do you know of an alternative named pipe implementation I should look at for our SQL Server client?