Add verify-dependencies check

[KyleFromNVIDIA]

This check makes sure that dependencies.yaml follows RAPIDS conventions. For now, it just makes sure that certain packages that pull in the CTK are in specific dependency set matrices with use_cuda_wheels: "true", to ensure that the CTK is only pulled in if requested.

Issue: #132

[jameslamb]

I'm good with the naming, no strong opinions about any of the code changes.

I tested in cuvs with a diff like this:

diff --git a/.pre-commit-config.yaml b/.pre-commit-config.yaml
index aa65eec1..a1db389c 100644
--- a/.pre-commit-config.yaml
+++ b/.pre-commit-config.yaml
@@ -116,6 +116,12 @@ repos:
                     ^CHANGELOG[.]md$|
                     ^cpp/cmake/patches/cutlass/build-export[.]patch$|
                     ^rust/cuvs-sys/src/bindings[.]rs$
+      - repo: https://github.com/KyleFromNVIDIA/pre-commit-hooks
+        rev: verify-use-cuda-wheels
+        hooks:
+          - id: verify-dependencies
+            name: verify-dependencies
+            args: [--fix]
       - repo: https://github.com/rapidsai/pre-commit-hooks
         rev: v1.6.0
         hooks:
diff --git a/dependencies.yaml b/dependencies.yaml
index d9221076..45af8307 100644
--- a/dependencies.yaml
+++ b/dependencies.yaml
@@ -343,7 +343,6 @@ dependencies:
           - matrix:
               arch: aarch64
               cuda: "12.2"
-              use_cuda_wheels: "true"
             packages:
               # some components (like nvidia-cublas-cu12 and nvidia-cuda-nvcc-cu12) didn't have
               # aarch64 wheels until CTK 12.3, so allow a slightly looser bound here
@@ -420,7 +419,6 @@ dependencies:
           # ref: https://github.com/rapidsai/cudf/pull/20873
           - matrix:
               cuda: "12.9"
-              use_cuda_wheels: "true"
             packages:
               - cuda-toolkit[cublas,curand,cusolver,cusparse,nvrtc]==12.*
               - nvidia-nvjitlink-cu12>=12.9,<13

The output looked good to me.

$ pre-commit run --all-files verify-dependencies
verify-dependencies......................................................Failed
- hook id: verify-dependencies
- exit code: 1

In file dependencies.yaml:349:17:
               - cuda-toolkit>=12.2,<12.4
warning: package "cuda-toolkit" in specific dependency set without 
use_cuda_wheels: "true"

In file dependencies.yaml:343:13:
           - matrix:
note: place in a specific dependency set with use_cuda_wheels: "true" instead

In file dependencies.yaml:423:17:
               - cuda-toolkit[cublas,curand,cusolver,cusparse,nvrtc]==12.*
warning: package "cuda-toolkit" in specific dependency set without 
use_cuda_wheels: "true"

Just left one suggestion, there are more cases of this particular check that I think we'll want to catch.